Okay, this has been on my nerves for a while now.  Have you ever had a friend who is obviously headed into a bad relationship, who openly admits it, but who gets into it anyhow?  It's like that idiot character in a horror film who knows there's probably going to be someone down the dark alley, but who walks that way anyhow because it's obviously the only street around, and clearly the best choice.

       This guy is a total gem, and by gem I mean sleazy dirt bag.  They have been going on frequent dates for about 5 months now, but he refuses to acknowledge her as anything other than a close friend when other people, especially women, are in earshot.  He doesn't like the word "relationship" because labeling something as a relationship limits the freedom of the people in it.  So I have coined it their "situation."

       Even though they're not dating or in a relationship, he keeps pressing her physically.  Some sort of stupid 'friends with benefits' thing or something.  She is a Christian girl with strong values and morals, and he's trying to make her go against most of them.  He does this reverse-psychology thing where he tells her to go home, but then says "we should make eggs.  do you want to make eggs with me?" and then she winds up staying the night and he keeps telling her she should leave, but drops other hints that he really wants her to stay, and she suckers into it.

       When asked his opinion on marriage, he says that it's pointless, and even detrimental to a relationship.  He says that when you're married, you think only of what you could have had, so you want to break the vows.  But when you're only in a relationship, you know that it's as easy as breaking up and you can be with whoever you want, then you can always get back together.  AKA: when you're married, it's called cheating.  when you're dating, it's called taking a break.

       She knows all of this is going on, she knows everything, and she still wants to date him.  *sigh* I know that I have to be supportive and stick with her through this, cause she's going to need me when it crashes into  the Whomping Willow, but I just get so fed up with his crap.  She's such a great girl and deserves soooo much more than what he wants to offer her.  :( :( :(

Thanks for reading, or not reading my blog.  If you have any advice for me to pass along or for me to keep my sanity, that would be great.  For now, goodnight.

Michele.